How to Mend a Broken Heart

I might be the last person for you to get advices on broken heart. Where resuscitation might not involve chest compression and ventilation, neither the sequence involving cardiac tamponade or ruptured heart. The one with injury rarely visible but the pain at its greatest. When heart brady-ing and at times palpitating. Syncope in the realization of it's over. Going through 'Kubler-Ross' in a slowest pace, hoping you can get express pass to Acceptance.

While boys usually deals with break-up surprisingly good. This tips might mostly be helpful for the girls. I formulate it myself out of the nowhere.

Cry It Out, Shout Out Loud

Cry-a-thon your heart out. Shout it. Give yourself a week to be in a rally of a broken heart.

Anne Frank Your Way Out

Mark the calendar on the first day of break up. Set a target that by the end of 30-days period, you will reduce the intensity of signs and symptoms of frustration and grief from "God!!! Why? Why this happened to me?" to "Yeah! Whatever! Move along!". Make a Break-up Diary. Every day aims for improvement and write down reasons why you should not lingers around the sadness and grief any longer. Write down what you hate about him/her. Write down how many times a day you were reminded of him/her. By the end of '30-Days of Heart Broken' period, burn the diary down as a ritual of graduation from your ex effect.

Write It Down = Gain a Closure

Write a letter, email, SMS to her/him and tell it to her/him whatever is left to tell and send it out. Be civilized. Avoid being so verbally radioactive and acid. Don't let them have a satisfaction and relief of "Thank God I'm not marrying her/him,"

Write a very explicit letter. This time be as primitive as you can. Use as many vulgar words as you want. Write everything and as extensive as you want. Burn it and imagine all your hurts turned to smoke and ashes.

If you are that virtuous, have him/her forgive you for whatever it is that hurts them and you tell him/her that you forgive them. End it in a good term. No name-calling, sextape leaking, dissing, Facebook crap status-ing etc. Sometimes, a nice goodbye aren't really that bad. You may find yourself in peace with them and yourself. Sometimes what hurts the most is when the one you love turned ugly, mean and disappointing before the relationship end. It's an added double-cheese to a double cheese burger to your coronaries. So make it as sophisticated break-up as you can.

Delete It

Pictures, old SMSes, emails, delete everything about them that might having you lingered and reminded. Tear it, burn it, dispose it, be as ruthless as you can. Don't forget to delete thier phone number to resist the urge of you calling him/her and be a pathetic moron and beg them to take you back. Remove her/him from a friends list in social networking site etc. To be idiot-proof, delete every signs of their existence. Be as amnesiac as you can. Be it in physical or virtual form.

Box It

In case you afraid that you might want the stuffs he/she gave you in a future for some crappy nostalgic purpose, box it, seal it, hide it, store it away or ask your friend to keep it for you. Send it to unknown or non-existing address in China or Arctic that might take years for postal service to have it returned back to you.

Ignore It = Do The Opposite

Every time you feel like you want to lingers around memories, do the opposite. If you want to cry, laugh instead. If you want to stay in bed and be as polar bear as you can, do the contrary, be active, involve yourself in other activities. Do the charity. Making other people happy will make you happy. It's a two way charity you owe to them and to you. If you feel like eating like crap and be fat, do the opposite, be physically fit and be in-shape. Whenever you feel like his/her ghost is haunting you, do a sit-up, run a mile, sing a crappy song, dance, feed your cat, help around the house. In short, do the opposite of everything bad reminiscing him/her made you.

Avoid It

Songs, movies, books, places, favorite quotes or anything that you once considered as let say OUR FAVORITE SONG or OUR FAVORITE HANG-OUT PLACE, avoid it. Avoid it as long as you can until you are ready to make a new memory with someone else. Avoid any RomCom movies, melancholic love song, or anything. Invest in new hobby, let say mount climbing, jungle trekking, origami, painting, cooking, gardening, sports, books etc.

Date Not

Some may find the simplest solution of break-up is to date a new one. A rebound as they might say. But truth be told, you are not that ready. You might not totally be there for your new love. You might ended up comparing everything about your new partner to the one you've lost. It's not fair for him/her to live up to your ex reputation. You may breaking their heart instead. Make friends, lots of them. Be around them. Go backpacking, hiking, camping, etc. Divert your mind, attention and focus into something that doesn't remind you of your ex.

Re-Inventing

Analyze everything about you. What could be wrong with yourself. Get a new hair cut, new style, behavioral and social refurbishment. Be a new person, a better one.

Return to The Ultimate Healer

God is the greatest therapist. Say it in your prayer whatever it is that hurts you. Tell HIM the way you told your mum about everything that happened in your kindergarten when you were little. Tell HIM everything that you want to tell. Pray to HIM to give you peace of mind and soul. Forgive yourself. Get close to HIM. HE will never broke your heart. HE will always be there whenever or not you need him. Make yourself believe that GOD has better plan for you.

Look Around

What is it that you should not be thankful about. Look around. You still got your family, friends and pets. Be thankful to everything you see, taste, hear and smell. Be thankful to the sound of the chirping bird. Be thankful for the soothing morning air as it enters your lung. Be thankful for your mom and dad. Be thankful for your annoying siblings.

Mirror Me

Look yourself at the mirror and be the evil twin. Tell it to your reflection on why you better off without him/her. Praise yourself. Appreciate how gorgeous you are and what a big lost he/she had. Everytime you feel like crying, look yourself in the mirror and see how ugly you look in a puffy eyes, protruded lips, sobbing with tears running down your cheeks. Laugh at your reflection and tell it how pathetic you are crying over a scum bag. Be mad, be strongly determined, motivate your reflection.

Respeito

Respect yourself. Value-up yourself. Build your self-confidence and self-esteem.

HAVE A NICE BROKEN HEART,

THE ONE THAT HEALS CALLOUSTICALLY.